The Language of Love

One of the happiest and greatest feeling on Earth is to love and to be loved.  But how do we know if the love that we invested to someone else is being reciprocated? How would we know that the feeling is mutual? There are times that we often wonder and think if the apple of our eyes feels the same way as we do. Of course, everyone wanted to be loved and get the attention from our special someone because being loved brings contentment and happiness. It's the greatest feeling a person could ever have.  Love is a feeling that everyone is longing for and it is the reason for our existence. If love does not exists in our life we felt so miserable and incomplete.  Love is a wonderful feeling and we must make sure that this feeling is expressed in the same way by our loved ones in the languages of love. According to the book of Gary Chapman, there are five languages of love and these are as follows:


1. Words of affirmation  - These are complements of words and encouragement. Do we experience these from our partner? or in either way do you express this language to your love one? Saying "I Love You" to your partner is one of these.  This is the first magic word that people who are in love wants to hear.  Hearing the magic word "I love you" even a silent whisper to the ear can make the day complete and this can help to grow the relationship. For others who are still in courtship stage, you will notice that a person in love always compliment the one he or she loves. This is the reason why love develop because positive words and encouragement being given to a person can show how you like him or her and that he or she is being accepted as a person.


2. Quality Time. - If we love a person we gave them our quality time and our undivided attention. Most people who are in love spend more time together and spend time on bonding activities.  Do you spend more quality time with your partner? Being together specially those in courtship stage can deepen the feelings specially if you have good bonding activities.  You also have the time to know each other well and makes you more closer to each other. Quality time can build beautiful memories that we can cherish and remember forever.


3. Receiving gifts - Most people specially men often gave flowers and chocolates to their love ones because these are symbols of love.  But why does receiving gifts is one of the languages of love? Are we being materialistic here? Of course not, giving or receiving gifts just shows the willingness of our partner to spend a dime just to make us happy. Let's face it that even just a single rose given to a woman from the man he loves could make her smile for the day and this can even be remembered even in her lifetime. Giving as well as receiving gifts can sometime shows importance and affection.


4. Acts of Service - When we love our significant other we are always willing to help them in anyway possible.  We are willing to lend a helping hand to show them that we really care.  This is the case when a man loves a woman he usually fetch her at work and make sure that she goes home safe and secured. We are there for them because it shows that we value them and they are important.


5. Physical touch - These are physical connections, like holding hands, kissing, hugging and any re-affirming physical contact to our significant other. Of course, there are limitations to these depending on the status of your relationship. Physical touch just shows appreciation and that you are being loved by your partner. We hear a lot of stories about separation in a relationship just because there is no physical contact or falling out of love just because the other partner does not show any more affection to them. We can also hear some stories of distant relationship wherein there is no physical touch and this sometimes put the relationships on the rocks. This is a very important language of love specially thodse in a relationship because it demonstrates your connection, affection, care and love.


Those mentioned above are expressions of love or languages of love that we must feel and see when we are in love.  People are different but they may show their affection and love in these languages. These love languages when communicated to us by our significant other can help us fall in love all over again.