A Love that Lasts Forever

Many of us are wondering and asking is there really a love that last forever? What is the key to a lasting relationship. Is there some kind of magic to a love that lasts forever? What can we do to keep the fire of love burning and stay with each other? These are just a few questions that most of us usually asks, but the answers lies on us, we must ask ourselves what have we done to keep the love alive.

Love is just like a mustard seed that started so small but with the help of water and sunlight it grows every day.  This is the same thing with human life, we also started like a tiny dot and then our mother nurtured us in her womb until we were born.  Everything in this world has a foundation and love also has a foundation. So, we may ask ourselves what is the foundation of our love to let it lasts forever. It's a teamwork of both couples to stick to their commitment and to stay in love with each other.

You will always hear stories that most of the couples who are in a long-term relationship have started their journey as friends.  They say that the best foundation of love is friendship, maybe it's because they have known each other so well, they have already built trust and confidence, more memories and bonding before the relationship flourished, have the same interests and likes, in short, they are perfect match because of their likelihood. But what if you did not start as friends, does it mean there is no good foundation at all?  Of course not, you can still have good foundation as your relationship grows.  It's a teamwork between couples to keep their relationship and commitment with each other. Mostly, relationship failure is due to incompatibility along the way they have discovered that they are not compatible and it can never be worked out. Falling out of love because of lack of attention coming from the other partner.  If we are to enter into a relationship and we would like it to lasts a lifetime we must need to have more of these key ingredients and these includes patience, love and understanding.

Every couple should make their duties in order to keep their relationship lasts because lasting relationship does not always happen by chance. It's like a plant that you need to water every day in order for this to grow day by day until it becomes a bigger tree with bigger roots and branches that can withstand every storm that pass by. Just like in a relationship wherein we built beautiful moments together, we let the love grow every day and we also build trust with our partner.

They say that the key to a lasting relationship is to never be angry at the same time take turns forgiving and keep your love strong.  Good communication is another key ingredient into a lasting relationship. We should not be misled by the impulse of our emotion if we are angry, think a million times before saying a word or actions that would hurt our partner.  A simple sorry can sometimes save the relationship that is on the rocks. Be sure to be sincere when asking for forgiveness and never to repeat the same mistakes that would ruin the relationship.

If we aim for a lasting relationship we must always remember the verse from the Bible:

"1 Corinthians 13:4-5: “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs."

If we keep this in mind and put God in the center of our relationship, we can make sure that we can keep love in our hearts and we can have a love that last forever.

 

 

The Language of Love

One of the happiest and greatest feeling on Earth is to love and to be loved.  But how do we know if the love that we invested to someone else is being reciprocated? How would we know that the feeling is mutual? There are times that we often wonder and think if the apple of our eyes feels the same way as we do. Of course, everyone wanted to be loved and get the attention from our special someone because being loved brings contentment and happiness. It's the greatest feeling a person could ever have.  Love is a feeling that everyone is longing for and it is the reason for our existence. If love does not exists in our life we felt so miserable and incomplete.  Love is a wonderful feeling and we must make sure that this feeling is expressed in the same way by our loved ones in the languages of love. According to the book of Gary Chapman, there are five languages of love and these are as follows:


1. Words of affirmation  - These are complements of words and encouragement. Do we experience these from our partner? or in either way do you express this language to your love one? Saying "I Love You" to your partner is one of these.  This is the first magic word that people who are in love wants to hear.  Hearing the magic word "I love you" even a silent whisper to the ear can make the day complete and this can help to grow the relationship. For others who are still in courtship stage, you will notice that a person in love always compliment the one he or she loves. This is the reason why love develop because positive words and encouragement being given to a person can show how you like him or her and that he or she is being accepted as a person.


2. Quality Time. - If we love a person we gave them our quality time and our undivided attention. Most people who are in love spend more time together and spend time on bonding activities.  Do you spend more quality time with your partner? Being together specially those in courtship stage can deepen the feelings specially if you have good bonding activities.  You also have the time to know each other well and makes you more closer to each other. Quality time can build beautiful memories that we can cherish and remember forever.


3. Receiving gifts - Most people specially men often gave flowers and chocolates to their love ones because these are symbols of love.  But why does receiving gifts is one of the languages of love? Are we being materialistic here? Of course not, giving or receiving gifts just shows the willingness of our partner to spend a dime just to make us happy. Let's face it that even just a single rose given to a woman from the man he loves could make her smile for the day and this can even be remembered even in her lifetime. Giving as well as receiving gifts can sometime shows importance and affection.


4. Acts of Service - When we love our significant other we are always willing to help them in anyway possible.  We are willing to lend a helping hand to show them that we really care.  This is the case when a man loves a woman he usually fetch her at work and make sure that she goes home safe and secured. We are there for them because it shows that we value them and they are important.


5. Physical touch - These are physical connections, like holding hands, kissing, hugging and any re-affirming physical contact to our significant other. Of course, there are limitations to these depending on the status of your relationship. Physical touch just shows appreciation and that you are being loved by your partner. We hear a lot of stories about separation in a relationship just because there is no physical contact or falling out of love just because the other partner does not show any more affection to them. We can also hear some stories of distant relationship wherein there is no physical touch and this sometimes put the relationships on the rocks. This is a very important language of love specially thodse in a relationship because it demonstrates your connection, affection, care and love.


Those mentioned above are expressions of love or languages of love that we must feel and see when we are in love.  People are different but they may show their affection and love in these languages. These love languages when communicated to us by our significant other can help us fall in love all over again.

The One That Got Away

Malapit na naman ang Valentines Day, at araw na ng mga puso.  Ilan sa atin nag aasam na sana mahanap na natin yung taong nakalaan sa atin or yung tinatawag na "The One". Yung iba naman inlove na talaga at kontento na sa mga partner nila.  Minsan naman may mga magkareslasyon naman na kung kailan malapit na ang Valentines don pa maghihiwalay.  Ang saklap naman di ba? Pero isipin na lang natin na naghiwalay kayo hindi dahil may kasalanan ka o may kasalanan sya.  Walang sisihan kung sino ang may mali kasi the more you think about it and the more you dig into the situation the more you are being hurt.  Ang isipin na lang natin nagkahiwalay kayo dahil may mas magandang dahilan ang lahat.  Maybe you are not really meant for each other and someone better would come along.  Pwedi rin naman na it's just a true test of love at sa bandang huli kayo pa din naman (Hehe! Pinapaasa pa! Nasasaktan na nga) but who knows di ba? In the end of it kayo pa rin talaga ang nakalaan para sa isa't isa and the next time you'll be together alam mo na kung paano dadalhin ng mas maayos ang inyong relationship.  For sure naman while the two of you are away from each other don nyo marerealize ang kahalagahan ng isa't isa ng iyong "The One that Got Away". 


Ang ilan sa atin nasa relasyon na akala mo kayo na talaga until the end and you will grow old together and you will build a family of your own.  Minsan nga kahit nakapagpundar na din kayo ng family nagkakahiwalay pa din.  Bakit? saan ka ba nagkulang? ginawa mo din naman ang lahat para sa inyong relasyon pero nauwi pa din sa wala ang lahat. May mga bagay talaga na tanging ang panahon lang ang makakasagot.  Sabi ko nga there's a reason for everything, antayin mo lang kung ano ang sagot ng tadhana kung bakit hindi kayo ang itinakda. Ang mahalaga dumaan sya sa buhay mo at dumaan ka sa buhay nya sa isang bahagi ng buhay nyo naging masaya kayo sa isa't isa.  Di ba it's so wonderful kung iisipin mo na sa dinami dami ng tao sa mundo nagtagpo ang mga landas nyo para maging masaya. Nakilala mo sya at nakilala ka din nya and you have shared the same feelings?


Pero minsan di naman totoo na you have the same feelings yong iba one sided lang talaga (Pinaglaruan ka lang pala) Oh, nasasaktan ka ba if nalaman mo na hindi naman pala totoo? Pero mas mabuti na yung nasaktan ka at nalaman mo atleast you have the time to move on with your life.  For sure naman there will always be a person that will be meant for you, who will love you wholeheartedly yung hindi ka paiiyakin at sasaktan lang.  Yung tao na walang ibang iisipin kung hindi kung paano ka magiging masaya.  Mas masarap yung feelings na lagi kang special sa buhay nya at hindi kumpleto ang araw nya kung hindi ka nakakasama o napapasaya.  Yung tao na gagawin ang lahat para maging masaya ka lang.  Yung tao na ikaw ang magiging mundo nya hindi sya ang magiging mundo mo.  Pero paano nga naman if hindi ka naman masaya sa kanya at sya lang ang masaya sayo.  We'll kung may taong ganyan na dumating sa buhay mo at di mo naman natututunang mahalin ikaw na ang may problema. Maybe you need to reformat your heart and erase the memories of your past parang memory card lang baka marami ng memories na naka save kaya ayaw ng tumanggap ng bagong files hehe.  Ganyan naman pag na attached ka emotionally sa isang tao mahirap makalimutan pero you need to help yourself kasi walang ibang makakatulong sa'yo kundi ikaw lang hindi ang ibang tao kung sarado na ang puso mo sa iba. Pero antayin mo lang baka naman it's too early pa for you and you still have to heal the wounds of the past. It's better if the person who will love us is willing to wait for you paano pala if nawalan na sya ng pag asa at lumayo na din lang kagaya ng taong minahal mo and then later narealize mo na kaya mo din pala syang mahalin kung kailan wala na sya.  We'll ang masasabi ko better luck next time baka may darating pa na mas deserving of your love and by the time na dumating sya mas handa ka na.


We don't need to cling on our past and be lonely because the relationship didn't worked the way we wanted it to be. If you are really meant for each other you will end up together again.  As long as we live there will always be a brighter side for our future whether when it comes to our love life or our dreams in life. As long as our life goes on our love story continues because that is part of our life.  You must learn to handle what lies ahead and be thankful for beautiful moments we had in our life because those beautiful moments  are gift from God that we should cherish forever. If the person who makes you happy got away for some reason maybe it's because God is preparing us for another beautiful chapter of our life and that beautiful chapter will be sweeter than ever and it will pour us with so much happiness forever.


We must remember that most of the time fate dictates our destiny to find our way to the person meant for us. May kasabihan nga na time is the true test of love.  There are numerous number of beautiful love stories I know personally na kahit ang tagal tagal na nilang nalayo sa isa't isa ng "The One That Got Away" nila  they bump into each other again in unexpected time and unexpected places  and their love flourished all over again and they end up being together and they live happily ever after.  Parang fairy tale lang may magandang happy ending.  Sabi nga noon ng isang kanta, love moves in mysterious ways.

Pangarap

All of us have dreams and goals of our own but what hinders us to get what we want in life? There are many factors like, we are too busy and focused on different things. Yung iba naman tinatamad lang talaga and mas gusto pa ang matulog na lang kaysa mag isip na abutin ang mga gusto natin sa buhay.  Eh di ba naman mas masarap naman yung mas madali ang ginagawa kaysa pahirapan mo ang sarili mo.  But if we come to think of it, if di natin ginawa yung part na dapat natin gawin tayo din ang nahihirapan because if our goal is to be financially free and we did not do our part we also suffer because we cannot have what we want in life. It's not only us that will suffer because we stick to our comfort zone but also the people close to us, our family our love ones suffer because we cannot give them the best things in life. Di ba mas maganda if once in our lifetime we have created a legacy that will be remembered by our next generation?  Pero ang tanong paano nga ba? Mahirap di ba kahit ikaw di mo din alam kung paano.  Ginagawa mo din naman lahat pag sinisipag ka nagsusumikap ka na abutin yung mga pangarap mo pero mahirap talaga mahuli ang mga pangarap.  Pero di bale as long as you are doing something to fulfill your dreams no matter how far or how long the journey is for sure makakarating din tayo sa ating mga pangarap.


Most of us namamali lang ng daan patungo sa ating mga pangarap kasi naman ang daming paliku likong daan and sometimes we fall into different directions. We must remember that no matter what happened we still stick to our dreams because if we stop searching for the right way we cannot reach our destiny. Mabuti sana kung ang way para sa ating mga pangarap may apps na din na kagaya ng sa Waze na iga-guide ka sa pupuntahan mo.  You are the master of your own destiny what ever happens to you along the way it's because yan ang pinili mong tahaking daan.  But if you happen to know na naliligaw ka na you do not need an apps to be on the right road again.  You just need to ask and pray God for guidance for sure maririnig naman nya tayo.  God knows what we want and what is in our heart for sure if we consistently pray for His guidance God will lead us to the right direction to get our goals in life.


Minsan kasi we need to reflect again baka naman mahirap natin makamit yung mga gusto natin because may kulang sa mga efforts natin or maybe we uses the wrong tool to get there fast and easily. Naniniwala ka ba na everyone of us has God given talents that you just have to use in order to be happy.  Di ba nga if gusto mo yong ginagawa mo parang di ka napapagod because that is where your heart is and you do it well kasi gusto mo. Sabi nga "Success is liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it".  Kung saan ka magaling at masaya that is your God given talent.  Naranasan mo na ba yung may gusto ka sa buhay na gawin pero di mo naman nagagawa di ba ang lungkot?  But if you are doing what you love to do you became excellent! you can amaze everybody and it feels good right? You become more motivated to work and do it again until you get what you really want. Parang love lang yan you became so happy and contented if you are with him or her and you are so motivated to wake up each day kasi sya yung makikita mo sa pagising mo sa umaga. You nurture the feelings within your heart.


There are thousands of beautiful stories of success we can read on the internet about how they succeed and how they were able to get to their dreams.  Thousands of amazing people that can motivate us to do the same thing.  Yun nga lang we think na their luck is not our luck but we have not tried it yet who knows if we follow what they did we can also get to where they are now.  They will serve as our blueprint to build our own dreams and be amazing too like those successful people. If we keep on knowing their secrets of success they can serve as the star for us to follow in going to the direction of our dreams. 


Sabi nga you become who you are depending on how you feed your mind. When you gather these ideas it became actions and actions delivers result which could lead to your success in life. All the tools for our dreams are accessible and free andyan lang sila para matulungan tayo na abutin ang ating mga pangarap.